Divine Selfishness

              You are love itself. This means you should not go out looking for someone to love, or to experience someone else’s love. You should enter into relationships in order to be inspired to experience and express the love that you are. You should enter into relationships with people that inspire you to love yourself. When you love yourself, you do what is best for you. You take care of yourself. You do not stay with anyone that holds you back or down. You do not stay with anyone that hurts you. When you love yourself, you take care of those who are good to you, those who inspire you to take care of yourself.

              Make no mistake, everything you do, you do for the sake of self, just the way it should be. Yes, this is Selfish. But as there are always two sides to everything, there is diabolical selfishness, and there is Divine Selfishness.

             If you give up your life to save another without thought, it was a soul decision to save its spiritual integrity. If you do it with thought, it is because you could not live with yourself if you did not. But regardless, this Divine Sacrifice, thoughtless or thoughtful, can only be made out of love, your experience of the love that you are. Your love is the only true love.

             True love is the inner experience of that energetic connection we have with everyone and all life. To love Self is to love everyone and all life, because without others, there would be no reason to live, and no inspiration to learn and evolve to and in the conscious experience and expression of that Divine Connection. Thus, you must Selfishly use everyone and all life towards this Divine Purpose. You must not allow anyone to limit you from the true and full experience and expression of love, of yourself, of everyone, of all life – Unconditional Love.  

Turning Your World Up-Side-Down

            There may have fundamental ideas about yourself and Human relationships that might not only be wrong, but perfectly opposite to the truth of self, and the "ways" of Human relationships.

           We were taught that we are limited, as in we do not have all that we need, as in we start out with nothing. We may not have all that we want in the material sense, but we absolutely have all that we need in the spiritual sense. Yes, Human relationship is a spiritual thing, an inner thing.

            The vast majority of relationships end badly. WHY?

             We are taught to go out to find someone to love us. This means we were taught that we have no love until someone give us love. This mean we are entering into relationships without love. This means we are not taking love into the relationship. We enter into relationships in the worst state, in need. And we know what "needy" people are like, they are possessive and controlling people. And in this emotionally "needy" state, we create relationships of negative competition, with both parties fighting for love. Come on, if both parties enter into the relationship looking for love, they are both without love to give. Due to this, we concentrate on encouraging our partner to love us. And this, without talking about the different ways each person wants to be loved. We do not concentrate on encouraging our partners to love themselves, which is the true expression of love. We do not encourage our partners to become so strong, psychologically and emotionally, that they do not need us to give them love, or even to be with them. We do not concentrate on making our partners strong and independent. Some people deliberately make their partner psychologically and emotionally weak, in order for them to become dependent. WHY? Because in many ways we are taught to live in fear.Fear of being alone. Fear of not finding love.
             
             We should not have been taught to find someone to love us. We should not have been made to feel that we start out with nothing. We should have been taught that we have all the love we need.
             Simply then. Love is the conscious experience of the energy that is created by the perfect union of the opposites. You are the perfect union of the opposite essences of your father and mother. Know then, that YOU ARE LOVE itself.

             Then what is the purpose of relationships? Primarily, they are to inspire you to learn how to experience and express the love you are.

Everything Begins At Home

          The "Home" I refer to is the culture in which you were educated. And to be more specific, I refer to the perception you have of yourself. How you treat yourself and others is determined by the perception you have of yourself. If you do not innerstand yourself, as in not knowing the inner workings of your mind, it is not possible to evolve the deep limiting ideas that prevent you from expressing your potential to create Truly Loving, meaningful, Unlimited, mutually evolving relationships.
           Yes, for many decades we have been given ideas for truly loving, meaningful, and mutually evolving relationships, but only a very few of us have benefited from these teachings. Why? Because the majority of us cannot gain from them if we continue to believe the extremely limiting ideas that we are limited, imperfect, flawed, and bad. So, this is where you and I are going to begin our relationship, looking at the limiting ideas we have of ourselves.
             If you believe that you were born inherently and permanently limited, imperfect and flawed, then give up now, there is no hope for you to create the relationship your heart and soul desire. But this is not your fault, because you were educated, you were given these extremely limiting ideas when you were a child.
             If you believe what they have taught you, that you are limited, you are saying to yourself that you cannot have all that you need. If you believe what they have told you, that you are imperfect and flawed, you are telling yourself that you have not got what you need to have all that you need. And if you believe what they have taught you, that you are bad, you are telling yourself that you do not deserve all that you need. The worst thing is, as we see ourselves, we see all others, limited, imperfect, flawed and bad. This is why we find it difficult to trust each-other. This is why we fear each-other. It is impossible to create good relationships with lack of trust and fear. No trust, no communication. When there is fear, there is no love.
           We have been taught to believe these limiting ideas from childhood. It is very difficult to imagine how these limiting ideas have, after many years, cut deep into our psyche. Absolutely everything we do is done out of belief. You believe you can walk, because when you were a baby you saw others walking. If you do not belief it, you cannot experience it. You experience what your perception was taught to believe.
           Now you are able to re-educate yourself, to begin the evolution of your limited perception to the Unlimited Evolved Perception, by using the ideas of the unlimited, infinite and eternal.
          This begins with you, with your perception, because you cannot create an evolved relationship without first becoming an evolved Being. And we can only become evolved Beings in relationships with others. Let us do it consciously.